One of the issues we face in the community and in teaching is finding out how best to help a new person and if we cannot, where to send them or who to send them to. Many of us have varied and differing beliefs on many aspects of the VC, vampirism, blood drinking, etc. So this can make it really difficult if we run into one who does not think like we do or has different beliefs in things.
For instance, one may teach it with a heavy energy based teaching. But the one needing help may simply not believe in energy in such a way. Should we then force them to believe? On the other hand, there are those whom believe that their condition is based on biology. Should we be dismissive of the faiths and beliefs of those that think that there is more? The issue is more about acceptance on both sides , or all sides rather, where some are different in various ways than this one or that one. Basically we need to practice acceptance of diversity or think this can lead to tragedy. Or turn ones who need help into enemies and someone who will just run off and may hurt themselves, or others. So then how do we, as individuals and as a community, approach this?
Well it simply is not about being right for one. It may very well be energy or another matter in our example, but we can figure out other ways to teach what they need and let them find their way to energy or simply stay where they are or go in a different direction.
I think most of us care more about saving lives, and helping people, than we do about being right.
It is something I am thinking about and would love if others did the same. Are we doing it right? Could we do it better? I personally think we aren’t and that we could.
One way is developing empathy and tolerance.
Empathy is being able to put yourself in the shoes of another, and the ability to see things from their own perspective.
Tolerance is simply being tolerant of others who may not believe the same as you.
People are different and the Vampire Community is as diverse, if not not more than the usual subculture. Aside from the differences in the feeding methods among vampires, their backgrounds and beliefs vary. From religious belief or non-belief, to beliefs as to the causes of vampirism, even to the appropriateness of the use of the word vampires.
So it goes without saying that we would meet a lot of different people that often do and believe things that may not align with our own beliefs and practices.
Instead of judging them, we can try to see it from their perspective. Why do they believe and act in this manner or what not. Then approaching it from there.
One of the basics of teaching and helping is reaching out and meeting the person according to what they know and understand, and then filling that gap according to what they need.
Psychic vampires need to learn how to draw energy and control it.
Blood vampires needs to learn how to draw blood and where to get it safely.
Hybrids need both.
Donors need to learn how to go about doing it without jeopardizing their safety.
It seems very simple, but in practice, it seems that the default setting for many of us is to judge first. Which generally leads to isolating those that are in the direst need of help.
We all like to be right. But the cost is may be too high when we focus too much on conflicts, and many of our fellow vampires and donors slip through the cracks unnoticed, driven away by the hostile atmosphere created.
Disagreements may be had and there is nothing wrong with spirited discussions, but we hope that we may always be reminded that these can be done respectfully, with the knowledge that none of us have the answers to everything.
We all differ in opinion in many things, but we think the Greater Vampire Community is big enough for all of us. We are varied and different but we are drawn together with a common need to feed and need for support and acceptance. As long as we are able to accept those differences, we may be able to build a better community together.